Talk Therapy: What it is and how it helps Talk therapy refers to therapeutic conversations where we can explore alternative thoughts, feelings and behaviours, and achieve the change you desire in your life. My approach to counselling is calm, sensitive, and goal-oriented. I use short-term solution-focused systemic therapy and evaluate change in every session to help ensures that the counselling process is helpful for you. I hold two designations–one as a Registered Clinical Psychologist and the second as a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist.
My Role as Psychotherapist
I have experience treating a wide variety of issues through psychotherapy. How can I help you?
Relationship issues: It’s difficult to find a relationship in your life that couldn’t benefit from some type of improvement. Perhaps you want to feel closer to your husband or wife. Maybe you want to know what’s going on in your teenager’s head. Or perhaps your boss is simply driving you crazy. Counselling can help to connect people and offer coping tools for feeling closer and more comfortable with that person.
Depression: Depression is often referred to as the common cold of mental illness, but if you’ve ever been sneezing or hacking from a cold, you know how debilitating this can be. The same is true for depression; if left untreated, it can often make life problems intolerable.
Divorce recovery: Divorce is the second most stressful life event one can go through, after the death of a loved one. People get a lot of understanding and care when someone dies. The hurt of a divorce brings about similar pain, without all the comforting. Individual counselling can help you to grieve the loss and find a new sense of self after a divorce.
Divorce prevention: Research by Dr. John Gottman indicates that couples tend to enter counselling 5 years later than they should have. While this doesn’t mean your situation is hopeless, it does make it more challenging. I encourage couples to go for a yearly check-in to make sure all is well in their marriage.
Abuse recovery: Body therapy is often more useful than talk therapy to treat this issue. I recommend EMDR, as it is one of the most effective forms of therapy for trauma. Learn more on my EMDR page.
Anger management: This is a complex but important issue for men, women, and children alike. Anger is a largely misunderstood emotion, and I highly recommend Carol Travis’s book Anger the Misunderstood Emotion for further learning.
Health issues: Health issues can turn your world upside-down, and it can be difficult to talk to a loved one, friend, or co-worker. Counselling offers a neutral party to talk things through with and can assist you in handling your concerns.
Eating disorders: Eating disorders are best treated with family therapy. If an eating disorder if affecting you or your loved one, I’m happy to speak with you to arrange a family therapy appointment.
Anxiety: In its most basic form, anxiety is about fear. It’s easy to get lost in the cycle of anxiety, and even thinking about getting anxious can be a trigger. But this is treatable, and counselling can help you to learn about the physiological, cognitive, and emotional aspects of anxiety.
Grief & loss: Grief is a strong and sometimes overwhelming emotion for people. It can stem from a variety of things, including the death of a loved one, the ending of an important relationship, job loss, loss through theft, or the loss of independence through disability. You may feel numb and removed from daily life, unable to carry on with regular duties while saddled with this sense of loss. But grief is a natural reaction to loss. It’s both a universal and a personal experience, and no two individuals grieve the same way. Individual experiences of grief vary and are influenced by the nature of the loss. It’s challenging to grieve for a loved one, and counselling can help provide guidance, understanding, and education on what the grief process is all about.
Self-esteem: Have you ever been dissatisfied or unhappy with yourself on the whole? Do you ever feel that you are weak, stupid, not good enough, flawed and inferior to others, worthless, ugly, unlovable, or a failure? It’s not uncommon for us to be hard on ourselves at times, particularly when experiencing a challenging or stressful situation. But if you think about yourself in these terms on a more regular basis, you may have low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem refers to having a generally negative overall opinion of oneself, judging or evaluating oneself negatively, and placing a general negative value on oneself as a person. These are some examples of what people with low self-esteem might say about themselves:
- “I get nervous talking to people I don’t know at parties. I’m socially inept and I hate it!”
- “I couldn’t understand a lot of what the instructor was saying today. I must be really stupid.”
- “I’m overweight. I am so fat and ugly.”
- “I’m unimportant.”
- “I’m a loser.”
- “I’m unlovable–that’s why I don’t have a girlfriend.”
- “I’m not good enough.”
Melody loves to help people and truly tries to understand how you’re feeling. If you could use some guidance, call her at (403) 808 9124 to learn how she can support your journey.